With the caveat that you can “drive any creature crazy” if
you put it into insane environments (such as a panther in a
small enclosure), feed it with poison, or torture it
continuously with actions, substances, and behaviors from the
outside, all the rest of the behavior problems you might come
across can be chunked up to versions of “attention seeking
This is a very, very interesting phrase.
Just run it through your mind and apply it to a creature of
any kind, a child perhaps:
“She was attention seeking all the time.”
What response, what gut response do you have to that phrase?
It’s not a good one, I would wager. It’s along the lines of,
“Dear oh dear. Tut. Shake head. Naughty child. Ah, she’ll learn
to keep herself quiet eventually. Her parents probably “spoiled”
her. She thinks she’s the centre of the universe. Ah, we’ll beat
it out of her ...”
It is extraordinary to me just how we have come to that.
Where did this come from? Who was the first to think it was a
good idea to leave a child crying for hours in the dark and
expect this to be “good for them”?
At least now (in the last 30 years or so, to put it in
perspective, and by all means not in all Western parent’s
thoughts) it is held to be the right thing to feed a baby when
it is crying and as soon as possible because:
- the baby doesn’t cry because it is naughty or evil but
because it is using a feedback device that is programmed in to
alert the care takers of a shortfall of food supplies;
- a baby fed immediately has a better immune system, less
sleep disturbances, even more intelligence (!) as umpteen
scientific studies now decree;
- the caretakers of a baby that is fed immediately
experience massively less stress, less psychological disorders
and less psychosomatic disease because the baby is easier to
satisfy and cries markedly less overall.
This process is the exact template for
energy exchanges of the “love” kind.
Attention seeking behavior is a feedback device designed to
alert those who can do something about it that there is a
shortfall in an energy system that cannot be alleviated by other
forms of energy but specifically needs to be fed by the
attention of others.
As an aside, it is my supposition that even universal "Christ
type love" cannot satisfy the human circuitry set up to process
and utilise human energy input. It can, however, feed the
overall system enough to stave off full collapse if it can be
successfully received on a regular basis.
Attention seeking behavior is set up so that reflexively and
unless there are mitigating circumstances, Western humans will
automatically draw back and refuse to give that attention.
It is extraordinary how we have been programmed to think of
“neediness” as a terrible character flaw and to jump on it
viciously and trying to extinguish it at every possible
opportunity, no matter how insane and totally crippling such
behavior may be.
For example, you may have come across the way that young
medical doctors are kept awake due to an insane rota system for
days on end. Here the “need that must not speak its name” is
sleep. Everyone needs sleep for maximum functioning.
No-one whatsoever is served by a tired, unconcentrated doctor
– not the system, not the doctor, not the nurses, and most
totally not, the patients. Yet that system of systemic sleep
deprivation is still in place and there is tremendous resistance
to changing it.
Attention Seeking behavior progresses through the following
stages as the need becomes more and more acute and more
excruciating to the individual who is experiencing the energetic
shortfall in a visceral, whole body experience:
Here, the creature (child, dog, cat, horse) first becomes
aware that the shortfall exists and begins to look around for a
likely “other” who may fulfil this need.
The creature will get up and start approaching the other and
make some minor signs that it is in need of some attention. In
an animal, that would probably be just coming over and
presenting themselves whilst looking at the other.
If the other ignores (read “refuses to provide the attention
energy”) this subtle approach, creature A will now escalate its
behaviors to “break on through” the barrier of ignoring – make
sounds, push physically, engage in behaviors that have
previously worked to “gain attention”.
4. Extreme Escalation
If these higher level behaviors are also ignored, the need
turns to a pain and will now drive consecutively more extreme
behavior in turn in a direct cause and effect relationship. If
the need is high enough, the creature may even attack.
5. Catastrophic Collapse Into Autism
If still no energy is forthcoming, the system collapses in on
itself in a catastrophic implosion which causes severe
neurological damage; the stage beyond rage is autism, where the
creature can no longer elicit the energy required nor process it
when it is being offered because of the damage sustained by the
receptors of the energy processing system during the
Depending on the severity of the neurological/energetic
catastrophe and the age of the creature at which the catastrophe
occurred (obviously the younger the creature, the greater the
impact on the system overall), some individuals may never come
back from the autism stage and remain there forever.
The Cure For Attention Seeking Behavior Disorders