And then one day, it hit me like a ton of bricks what it was
that was so completely overlooked in scientific animal behavior
and yet so glaringly on display if only one would open one’s
eyes as THE major factor of successful companion animal
With my heart beating high, I went through the many books on
animal behavior and especially, companion animal behavior and
I could not find that word in a single one of them at the time.
It was an absolute revelation to me that opened my eyes to
the Universe as it really was in a heartbeat and probably
changed me more than any other experience I have had on this
Right from the start, I was well aware that what I meant by
“love” was not some kind of mushy, fluffy pink behavior that
results in putting knitted jackets on Alaskan Malamutes because
“it makes him look so cute”.
Love was some kind of energy form that existed naturally
between an owner and an animal and that was a major driver
for otherwise completely inexplicable behavior.
Why, I ask you, why if this did not exist, could it possibly
be explained that a seventy year old arthritic tiny lady can
walk with that massive, uncastrated GSD by her side who obeys
her and makes sure the lead stays loose as not to hurt her?
She’s not dominating him, she’s not even hormonally
targettable as an “alpha female” any more. She is asking him
nicely if he would mind sitting there for a while whilst she
goes into a shop and he says - yes.
What is that?
That is not and never, “dog eat dog” scientific laboratory
- This is a fully formed, deeply bonded, highly
interactive, mature relationship between two entirely sentient
beings who are trying to co-operate as best they can.
Those two look at each other and something passes between
them – and this something is not a result of training or
communication, but the baseline for any of it in the first
An energetic connection of the highest order that will remain
even through extreme suffering, that is at some level beyond
reproach and quite regardless of either creature’s limitations.
We can call it what we like, but it sure looks like “love” to
With this new mindset I went back and looked again what
happens in the interactions when a Dominance Reduction Program
is being applied.
Firstly, the owner is told that the dog is “trying to take
over”. This sets the war metaphor in place and reframes the
owner’s experiences in that light – the dog coming up with a toy
is not just wanting to play, but it is in fact a part of a long
term, devious strategy to grab all the power and become the
Hitler of the household.
In our last unit, we talked about what happens in medical
interventions when war metaphors are applied, and we had an
experience of accepting the problem unconditionally in the
“becoming the vortex” exercise.
Do please note that the vortex is the same vortex, but as we
change our perspective or frame of reference from war to
understanding, we receive a rush of new insights and the
universe expands all of a sudden.
In Dominance Reduction Program interventions, the
relationship universe contracts as the dog becomes the
You contract it too much and you will reduce the possibility
of incidences of “good energy exchanges” to the point where the
creature in question experiences such a shortfall of this
essential energy (and make no mistake, it is absolutely
essential and systemically built into any species that forms
relationships, no matter how rudimentary, with others of its
kind) that a systemic collapse occurs and the
relationship simply dies.
- It is EXACTLY this shortfall of essential energy that
drives behavior disturbances, stress related illness and in
the end, systemic shutdown and death.
Understanding Attention Seeking Behavior Disorders